The Silent Story Men Tell Themselves About Fertility – ANd Why It’s Time to Change It
For far too long, fertility has been seen as a women’s issue. The story society has told – and that many men still believe – is that if conception happens inside a woman’s body, then fertility struggles must stem from her. But this simply isn’t true.
Male fertility is just as crucial as female fertility when it comes to conceiving a child. Yet, in many relationships, women are the ones shouldering the emotional, physical, and financial burden of fertility treatment. Meanwhile, men are often not encouraged – or even expected – to make the necessary changes to improve their own reproductive health.
This outdated mindset has led to countless unnecessary rounds of IVF, failed attempts, and devastating miscarriages – all while a key factor is being overlooked: sperm health.
Why Male Fertility Matters More Than You Think
Here’s a fact that should be headline news: sperm regenerates every three months. That means men have an incredible opportunity to improve their fertility in a short space of time—often much faster than women can influence their own reproductive health.
Yet, despite this biological advantage, too many men fail to take responsibility for their part in conception. While their partners endure hormone injections, invasive procedures, and the emotional rollercoaster of fertility struggles, many men continue living as if their fertility is set in stone.
But sperm health is directly influenced by lifestyle choices—just like egg quality. Factors such as:
• Diet – Nutrient-rich foods improve sperm quality, while processed foods and excessive alcohol can harm it.
• Exercise – Staying active supports healthy testosterone levels, which impact sperm production.
• Stress Management – Chronic stress affects hormone balance and sperm motility.
• Sleep – Poor sleep can lower testosterone and reduce sperm count.
• Toxin Exposure – Smoking, excessive alcohol, and environmental toxins degrade sperm quality.
When these lifestyle factors are neglected, the chances of conception drop, the risk of miscarriage rises, and couples face an uphill battle that could have been prevented.
It’s Not Good Enough to Ignore Male Fertility
As a fertility expert, I see it all too often—women walking into my practice feeling like they are failing at something that was never fully in their control. They’ve changed their diet, quit caffeine, exercised religiously, and tracked ovulation to the hour. They’ve done everything they can.
Meanwhile, their male partner hasn’t made a single change—and in many cases, hasn’t even had his sperm tested.
This is not just frustrating—it’s unacceptable.
If a man’s sperm is underperforming, he has the ability to completely transform his fertility in just three months through small, manageable lifestyle adjustments. In comparison, women are often expected to undergo months or even years of physically and emotionally draining treatments.
The Future of Fertility Needs to Be Equal
The truth is, fertility is not just a women’s issue. It’s a couple’s issue.
Men must start taking responsibility for their reproductive health, just as women have been doing for decades. The science is clear: male fertility matters, and small changes can have huge results.
If you’re trying to conceive, ask yourselves the following:
• Have you both been tested? (Not just you – him too.)
• Have you and him made changes to your diet and lifestyle?
• Are you and him doing everything in your power to create the best possible chance of conception?
If the answer is no, then now is the time to start. Because your future family deserves better than an outdated story that lets men off the hook.
Are You Ready to Take Control of Your Fertility?
If you’re looking for guidance on how to improve male fertility and increase your chances of conception, get in touch today. It’s time for men to step up and play their part in the fertility journey—because your choices matter just as much as hers. Book a call here or check out my male fertility courses here